I had dinner the other night with a friend who, for several years, and many reasons, has stayed in an unfulfilling marriage. But now, she is taking the steps toward divorce. While she knows it is the best choice for her, she is freaking out about the future. How will she support herself? How is she going to live? What will her life be like if she is not...
Read MoreA Weekend in the Pines
Marika, Mabel and I spent last weekend at a friend’s cabin out of the heat of the desert. What a gift to drive two short hours north and be surrounded by tall, sweet pines, where the daytime temperature peaks in the mid-80’s and at night, it’s cool enough, with the windows open, to pull a blanket over my shoulders. We arrived in the dark on Friday night,...
Read MoreAn Old Dream Becomes New Again
Two years ago this week I was pulling out of Marika’s driveway in the RV with Laddy, heading to the California coast. The dream was to move to CA, find a house to rent, continue doing the same Mac training work and enjoy the climate and the weather as I built a new life. And maybe Marika would join me in a year or two. A friend recently reminded me that...
Read MoreFrom Impossible to I’m Possible, Really
“Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” ~ unknown Nothing is impossible. An idea may seem challenging. Difficult. Hard to fathom. But it is not impossible. Often, what we believe is impossible is really someone...
Read MoreOpening to the Unexpected
I love stepping back from myself. It gives me perspective. It minimizes self-judgment and helps me see my patterns and habits more objectively. When I take a step back and imagine that I am talking to myself as if I am my own best friend, I am gentler, kinder and so much more forgiving with myself. And it is easier to see how my behavior may not really be...
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