from Niki de Saint Phalle's Queen Califia's Magical Circle
What story are you telling?
For the last two years I have been angry and resentful about the care I received after my open heart surgery that left me with an ugly and painful keloid scar. I wrote letters asking the doctor to take responsibility and pay for a scar revision but was denied.
When I finally heard myself telling my story out loud, I realized that I was holding on to all kinds of negativity that really wasn’t serving me. I had set myself up as a victim in my own story.
Once I realized this simple truth, I asked myself, what story would I rather be telling? Did I want to continue the fight and pursue legal action, fueling the anger and resentment? Did I want to keep seeing a part of my body as ugly?
I knew I needed to let go of the who-done-me-wrong saga and find a new story to tell where, instead of a victim, I am a hero.
What new story would you rather tell?
I thought about what I really wanted to happen. I considered what I could do that came from a place of strength and personal power.
My new story is that I am strong, healthy, healed. And that this year, I will make more than enough money to be able to easily afford to choose my own plastic surgeon and have the scar revision procedure.
It sounds simple, I know: Just tell a different story.
But it works. If you change the story, the story changes.
Already I feel lighter without the anger and resentment. I am no longer harboring those victim feelings. Not surprisingly, while my scar is still sensitive, it is a little less painful, less red, less angry. And my body really does feel stronger and healthier. And I know that I am healed.
It’s a great feeling to be the hero of my own story. I invite you to listen to the stories you are telling. Are they true? Would a different story serve you better? How can you be the hero of your own story?
yes, Yes, YES!!! This is awesome! Perhaps your scar is a beautiful battle scar that reflects tremendous courage and faith. Or perhaps it is the battle scar that inspired the OPENING of your heart. Something to be proud of, I’d say. Much love to you, sis!